Don’t get excited, I’m NOT pregnant!
One of my close friends had a little girl just over a week ago. She has a little boy 3 weeks older than Mini M
It has got us talking about whether we want another child
A lot of our friends are always asking when are we having another
I find it really annoying!
I feel like a terrible person when I tell them “not any time soon”
I don’t even know if I want another child
Does that make me a bad person? A bad woman?
Once you have one child why does everyone assume you want to keep having more?!
I love Mini M with all my heart. I love spending time as a family together. We also have enough money to do things as a family
I know money isn’t everything but I want Mini M to be able to do things and for us to be comfortable. I don’t want to work just to pay bills. We couldn’t afford to have 2 in nursery!
I want to enjoy Mini M growing up, it’s happening so fast
I’m not taking anything a way from people who have more than one child either. Part of me is envious of how they manage, there are days I struggle just with one! It’s a personal choice. It’s about what makes you happy. It’s about what makes you feel complete as a family
I have a brother and Mr M has a brother and a sister, so neither of us come from single child families. I do worry that if we only have Mini M he will miss out on that bonding experience of having a sibling, but I also know that’s not a reason to have another child.
I also had a pretty traumatic labour with Mini M and I don’t feel that I can go through that again at the moment. I know that in the grand scheme of things that’s a brief moment in time, but it’s one I don’t want to repeat in a hurry.
We had a long discussion about whether we want baby number 2. Mr M doesn’t want another child at the moment but his reasons are purely practical and financial. I think he would like another one once Mini M turns 3.
We agreed that we will discuss it again when Mini M is 3 and see how we feel. We also discussed that if we don’t have another by the time Mini M is 5 we won’t, we don’t want to be having a child too close to our 40’s
Who knows what the future will hold but at the moment we are happy being a family of 3
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