Last week we had our consultant appointment to talk about plans & get section date
We didn’t see the consultant but her registrar
I had seen him when I was in hospital with pains & I hadn’t really liked him then but he came into the room with a nice manner so I thought I’d give him the benefit of the doubt
How wrong of me!
He didn’t listen to my concerns
He didn’t listen to what I wanted
He didn’t take on board what I was telling him about Mini M’s birth
I felt like I was banging my head off the wall
He made me feel like having a section was not the right choice, even though there are reasons for me not to have a natural birth. He actually sighed & said “I’ll have to complete a pile of paperwork” then came back into the room with 2 forms!!!
He didn’t even check me or bump properly
I came out of the appointment upset, angry & deflated
I went back to work & was in a foul mood, I think most of the staff realised as they gave me a wide berth
When I got home I was still really upset & angry
I told a few of my friends, my mum & my boss, they all said the same thing – what we went through wasn’t right
I wrote a complaint that night
The next morning I phoned the consultant’s secretary & told her my concerns & that I was unhappy & that (as was my right) I wanted to see my consultant
Within the hour I got a call back, my consultant wasn’t in clinic but would see me Monday morning. I felt relieved
The meeting with the consultant went really well, she listened to what we had to say & apologised for how we had been treated
She also agreed that the section could be moved forward for medical reasons
We’ve now got our date, my brother is going to come down to help us look after Mini M & a close group of friends have also offered their help. We’re really lucky to have them!
I’m pleased with the outcome but think it’s unfortunate I had to complain & make a fuss to get this outcome. The consultant did say she was going to discuss my concerns in supervision with her registrar & felt reflective practice was required but I just hope others don’t have to go through the same thingby